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TikTok's Un-Motivational Speaker
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- Opublikowany 30 sie 2021
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This week, we take a look at a motivational speaker I found on TikTok who has a very unorthodox method. Enjoy!
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I'm so glad Curtis has stayed so humble after winning all those game shows in the 80s
Dunno why he spells his name with a K now though. I guess...money really does change people.
@PrincessOfHell it's literally so stupid idk how I got so many likes 😅
I was just referencing this video by Drew Gooden: plclip.com/video/VpVRjP3I2oI/wideo.html
Kurtis and Drew both uploaded these videos at the same time so obviously my past self had to flex that I watch both of their content as soon as they upload 😭😅 ahaha
I feel like I'm missing out since I don't understand
KDE be like:
@one of one what the hell is that garbage
haha
As someone with severe depression and who struggled with motivation for years, this guy actually does motivate me to keep going, solely for the miniscule possibility that I could meet him and thus have the chance to smack him upside the head.
He motivates me to never be like him
This is how a feel about nicacado avacado. The only reason I haven’t killed myself is because nicacado avacado will have outlived me.
Yess 👏🏻👏🏻
they had us in he first half, not gonna lie 😂
hell to the yeah
Him berating that man on stage and then being like “you know when I’m doing that I’m teaching?” Is the same as when parents beat their kids and say “I do this because I love you” so disgustingly toxic
@G ...because it is hurting him?? You don't get to decide when being harsh is warranted, and you don't get to decide what hurts another person bud. Just because you think "being soft", whatever that means, is a bad thing, doesn't mean that it's true, or that whatever tf this guy is doing is actually okay. You are more often than not just going to further cause insecurity and self hatred, there is very few people who are motivated by harsh and tactless opinions that are as subjective as this guy's are. Please try and have some empathy, if not to understand other people, just to be less wrong about everything you're saying.
@Pegs how is that hurting him.. lol gotta be harsh sometimes. Can't be too soft in this world
@G it actually is. It's hurting someone for no reason and excusing it by using morality or love.
No it's not the same..
Stupid example.
@DragonMaiden77 even if its a joke, hope you’re doing okay right now
I hate it when people use wolfs as examples of the whole “beta” and “alpha” superiority measures, when alphas are usually just the parents of wolf packs, their not even superior in strength. It’s literally just age.
@alifya they do tho, unlucky
@Andrew Marling we found the one whose parents don't love em
Lmao I thought fanfictions popularized this Alpha-Beta bullshit
@Andrew Marling the guy who created the term “alpha male,” David Mech, has since realized that his research was flawed. He’s gone out of his way to explain how alphas snd betas aren’t a real thing, and how he made such a big mistake. Do your research.
@Meme gazer 2 yeah I think he’s a troll. IF sigma males exist it’s definitely not this guy.
8:50 lmao people are NOT nice to wheelchair users. People literally used my mom's head as an armrest at Disneyland. It boils my blood to think about it.
Disabled people *are* frequently infantilized, which isn't great. But that's not the same as people being too nice. It's condescending.
@Jesus Saves You can think that, doesn’t mean it is true
I've heard of people literally wheeling people in wheelchairs out of their way, I have no idea what mental gymnastics they do to think that's appropriate. You wouldn't move a person out of their way, but these people clearly don't see people in wheelchairs as people, just something in their way
@LegendTeller Appreciate you educating me on what I find funny. Cheers.
@LegendTeller boohooo
@Rosia why though? Why give a free coat away?
We really need to make therapy more accessible so people can stop wasting their time with some of these motivational speakers.
@G It sounds like you have a pretty big misconception of what therapists do. They don't just listen to you talk, they help you develop a treatment plan and change your behaviors using methods that have been scientifically researched and found to be effective. It's not the same as venting to a friend.
@G I beg to differ with the whole pill part. But hey, if you wanted to be a troll and not take good advices from other people, then you do you.
@Goddesszilla Or you can just fix it yourself. What so hard you can't fix? Are you depressed? Go to the gym for 6 months, lose the belly and you won't be. Easy. People just want the easy pill solution tho. They want the pill and they want others to fix it for them
@sharpeningtheaxe I mean, therapists are BS. Talking about problems is BS. Fixing problems with action is the only way forward. Not sitting in a chair talking lol
The worst fear of being in a wheelchair is people being “too nice” really got me as someone who is scared of being in a wheelchair because I know I’ll be harassed and questioned by strangers because I am not paralyzed. Wheelchairs would probably benefit me but how people will react scares me
@Lumination but this is for video viewing only If you can, a diagnosis would be amazing for you. Those symptoms can be anything from diabetes to epilepsy and it's important to know how to treat it. I really hope you end up making the right decision for yourself, though.
@Lumination but this is for video viewing only before I got officially diagnosed with persistent nerve issues, they labeled my chronic pain as "fibromyalgia". its basically the word for when doctors can't figure out what's wrong with you. it's a pretty broad term, and people might get off your back a bit if they hear an "actual" diagnosis. there's also this huge, persistent assumption that everyone in a wheelchair is "crippled" without it. that's not true. just like how you use a cane to help, I sometimes use a wheelchair on my bad days. but ableists just can't wrap their head around the fact that not every single disabled person always needs their support tools to function. being disabled is a spectrum; some people are more mobile than others, but that doesn't make ones pain lesser or greater.
apologies for the long comment, but I didn't get a lot of support because my chronic pain origins were so vague. I don't want someone else to go through the same thing. your pain is valid. you're valid. don't let anyone convince you that your pain is "all in your head". just because you can't see it doesn't mean it's not there. cheers
I'm very late but I feel the same way tbh. I've recently started using a cane and have got endless questions ("oh, did you hurt your leg?" "But you're so young!"). It's frustrating because I don't have a diagnosis or really any clue as to what the issue is. All I know is that I get extremely dizzy randomly and fall a *lot*, as well as just having a bad ankle that gives out sometimes. It helps me be a lot less likely to fall, but because of the lack of a proper diagnosis, it's hard to explain to people who ask (and a lot of people do). Going so far as getting a wheelchair sounds nice but by god do I fear having to deal with that.
From what I understand, a wheelchair needs to be measured to fit you properly so it's less likely to hurt your back or cause pressure issues, etc. Meaning that if you feel that seeing a specialist, spending the $, and using the wheelchair would greatly help you--- you know you did all those things. You know why you need it. Going through that process will also validate your needs to yourself, you can confidently say you didn't just randomly find and a wheelchair and use it for no reason. The rest isn't anyone else's business, if it really would help you, def do it. Plenty of people have health issues that have good and bad days--- MS is a good example. It's relatively common for people with more advanced MS to use mobility aids on the days they need them, but to try not to rely on them on better days to preserve muscle strength. (Btw I am a person who uses a cane sometimes and other times I do not, no one has ever questioned this, and I'm not old/my specific disability isn't immediately obvious or visible)
I understand the fear you feel about this, but if something will provide you with aid and you can get it, please do. Potential judgement by strangers shouldn’t outweigh the actual benefit for you. I understand your fear, but too many people (including myself) are afraid of using tools to assist themselves and make their lives easier just because they think they don’t need it bad enough or they’re afraid of judgment.
Owen's DEFINITELY the guy online who tells you "Lol just get thick skin" when you call them out for being cancerous.
"LOL ur just a snowflake"
And he (like all dudes who say that) once confronted IRL would start back pedaling like he was in a reverse Tour de France
How can people use the word"alpha" or "beta" outside of a meme, or literally mentioning the greek letters, without being mocked down the street by everyone else?
I cannot help but feel intensely anxious and mortified for the people getting bullied on stage for motivational speaking. Like if that were me I'd commit die right there on the spot from sheer anxiety. The dude from the wheelchair part looked so uncomfortable and I just would like to give him a hug or something holy shit.
fr me too id be crying on the stage 😃
“Sensitivity is a virtue” was the perfect shirt to wear for this video omg
“The number one trait of an alpha male is to be comfortable with yourself.. so stop being uncomfortable with yourself” he says as he frantically tries to convince himself he is an alpha male
13:42
I've legitimately had a teacher exactly like this. Everyone hated him. He made the shy girl cry because she messed up a multiplication question just like this. She also got a kid to stand up at the front of the class so he could make fun of his appearance.
That guy sounds like the kind of abled bodied people who think any mechanical aid for disabled people is an insult to the person.
That’s exactly who he is
Something to note: if someone is genuinely struggling with motivation, self image, self esteem, etc., it’s probably something rooted much deeper than any “alpha-male-motivational-speaker” can comprehend or help with
“Just be comfortable with yourself”
Yes exactly 🙄
You sound like trauma is unknown byeverybody
@Ky Atonic You may not have said it, but it's essentially whats implied by most people who look down on a masculine men these days. But I agree with what you're saying obviously, men should be able to open up and speak about their problems, tbh I don't even think that it's even that normal or accepted to do yet lol. The Sopranos does that well if you haven't seen it though, you can still be an 'alpha male' and sort out your internal struggles and depression every week.
@Andrew Marling that is not what I said dude I said it’s insecure to be so obsessed with not being seen as feminine ever especially when those types of people view being feminine as expressing emotions other then anger and pride and being a decent human being there’s no issue with a man being masculine it’s an issue when they make that their everything it seems like they are insecure that they will be less of a man because they did even one thing that is seen as traditionally feminine
Kurtis' videos are the only way that I as an impressionable teenage boy stay grounded and not get swept up in the wave of degeneracy that is being an "alpha" or a "sigma"
I'm studying my bachelor degree in psychology, and I am so disturbed by these speakers. There are specific cognitive appraisals and patterns which determine a persons motivation. This incredibly toxic 'hustle culture' has the capacity to be so damaging for an individual to digest. It is rooted in ableism, and makes no allowances for anyone encountering executive dysfunction, burnout, depression, anxiety... The list goes on.
Humans inherently want to self actualize.. if our cognitive, emotional and environmental conditions are optimal we will find motivation comes easily. For many many people living with less than optimal conditions motivation can be really difficult, and this rubbish can actually create more of a problem for someone who is struggling by instilling shame and deficit thinking, while promoting burnout and overwhelm.
A message from an Autistic psych student & business owner who is currently laying on the sofa watching Kurt videos In the middle of the day to help regulate my overactive sympathetic nervous system so my anxiety subsides and I have the MOTIVATION to finish my work and study today. Look after yourself and take a fucking break.
All I can think about is how these are straight up conventions for people with degradation kinks
As a guy who grew up gay as hell in South Dakota of all places… this SCREAMS internalized homophobia rooted in his own insecurities and now he’s over compensating for what he dislikes about himself. Also he dresses like a youth pastor 🤣
Dude: “Do NOT be a beta!” Also him: *keeps his hands in his skinny jeans the entire speech*
Yeah, I know, right?! I don’t believe in beta or alpha terminology, but if you constantly have your hands in your pockets, and yet you’re picking on other people for not being confident in themselves (basically), I think the pot’s calling the kettle black
@𝑐𝑣𝑝1𝑑𝑧 𝑎𝑛𝑔𝑒𝑙 !! thank you :D
@i don’t even know at this point hello!!
@zeus thanks!!
@It isn’t Blu! sounds pretty beta to me
15:06 "never be beta [...], unless you're in jail/about to get shot"
Fellas, is it beta to want to survive physical assault?
Just wanna say, as someone who has been in and out of a wheelchair because of a disability, people tend to be more mean, so uh... buddy im not sure what you're talking abt by "nice" not even the government cares about disabled people i think this guy needs a reality check. Also thank you Kurtis for mentioning the inaccessibility issues, it helps, some people just disregard that fact and just say we are being overdramatic, no maam I sometimes can literally not walk, its not that im not trying hard enough to go upstairs i just CANT... unless I tear out my arms wiggling like a little worm up the stairs (which yes is exhausting but ive gotten kinda ripped from it)
It’s like Al sold his Toy Barn to make a career out of bullying people because of how insecure he was from getting beat up by toys.
How has this comment not blown up yet?
His videos are perfectly put together, he relates to jokes in it, he makes the best points, connections and skits. THIS is quality entertainment
I like how he says “I want people to like me for the real me” is a beta mindset, but the number one trait of an alpha is apparently being comfortable with yourself
When I was a kid my soccer coach pressured me to scream as loud as I could because I was too quiet thinking it would help somehow, I did it, and then I cried the whole drive home. He reminds me of this guy.
In case anyone else was wondering, his shirt says "Sensitivity is a Virtue." (you can see it at 15:56)
honestly that guy reminds me of parents who verbally berate their children to "discipline them", there is a fine line between discipline and abuse
It’s so painfully obvious that Owen is just projecting his own insecurities onto everyone else it almost makes me feel bad for him
dude would fight you tooth and nail if you told him that the alpha version he's trying to teach essentially would require him to stop caring about if he is or is not considered an alpha. Dudes just a balding ass hat that has his conventions so that he can put people beneath him and feel like he's the big guy for a change, which isn't sad, it's abusive and he's choosing to act that way.
@CryptidQ 🤣👍👍
he guides others to treasure he cannot posess
I was going to comment the same thing
Too true
I love how at 4:19 HE ACTUALLY WROTE THE ARTICLE, like what's written on it isn't gibberish but it's actually text related to the titles, the dedication man
That “Watch him get fixed” joke makes me laugh every time I see it or even just think about it.
3:56
This actually happened once. Some pastor got his time to get on stage mixing up with a comedian and everyone kept laughing while he was taking about how hard his life was before he got with God. It is literally the funniest video I've ever seen 🤣
"Don't be uncomfortable with yourself, be comfortable with yourself!"
Ah, yes. The floor is made out of floor.
This guy has a really high voice to be talking to people about being an "Alpha Male". Interesting.
y'all she's talking about these self proclaimed alpha males not men in general..No where in this comment did Kat say people with high voices can't be masculine or men and idk how y'all came to that conclusion...Reading comprehension is very important 😭
and before y'all come for me I'm transmasc too. This comment is not the end of the world I promise
i'm so sorry about these comments kat holy shit. people really missed the point
I thought this as well👀
Kurtis' sense of humour is a real fever dream and I'm willingly staying in it
how sad do you have to be to call yourself an “alpha male”
Back in the day we used to hide the fact that we were reading weird shit on AO3 way too much.
I guess in modern times it's considered cool to just passionately talk about your love for A/B/O dynamics and disguise it as motivational speaking. What a time to be alive!
I’ve noticed in your videos you’ve gotten a lot more confident in yourself and your jokes, good job buddy :)
Yeah dude congrats
Owen is 100% a high school bully who discovered the most genius outlet for his bullying.
@Joarthus He grew up and is now yelling at people 10+ years younger than him
@SkitzStuff many people have been in both situations
And tbh i respect the hustle.
@SkitzStuff Maybe? Idk. He has such natural bully energy I feel like he's always been this way.
he probably got bullied tbh
Dudes who label men beta and alpha etc secretly fear they are betas. It's kinda hilarious and totally pointless insecurity broadcasting. He's really just up there to tell himself "at least I'm not dumb enough to pay an idiot like me to 'fix' them."
that bullying teacher segment was genuinely how my old literature teacher was like and im not even exaggerating
“You’re ugly”
“You look exactly like me”
Actually cracked me up lmao
I'm very uncomfortable sharing a name with this man.
one of the best motivational speakers i’ve ever seen was a veteran who lost his sight while in action. His speech was about his pursuit of education after coming back home, and the difficulties he faced as a disabled person, and the value of education. Hearing him tell his story from a place of personal ups and downs was way more meaningful than any surface level “you can do it”
you mean surface leather?
Clint Malarchuk gave a speech in my high school once and genuinely brought me to tears. He has SUCH an inspirational story, it's insane
@Kingman Kingboy what is this...
what a champ! the only good motivational speech I've ever heard was from muniba mazari, in which she told the story of her accident and how she ended up in a wheelchair and everything that followed!
sooo true. I find that shit motivational. Hearing people talk about ACTUAL adversity they had to overcome - makes you realize how lucky your are and more likely to make the most of each day imo
"I just want someone to like me for the REAL 'beta' me..."
"An alpha is someone who is comfortable with themselves."
How to contradict yourself in less than a minute: An Un-motivational Seminar.
him screaming "NEVER BE A BETA" is so funny to me cuz in hindi "beta" means "son" and it's just cracking me UP
Lol 😂😂😂😂😂
I really don’t understand the “alpha male” concept like, I hate when they say you can’t cry, or you need to always be tough, like is is bad to show you have emotion? Are we not supposed to know you’re a human who feels? I hope I never run into one
Damn Kurtis, my therapist literally gave me a similar speech to the whole "motivation is a social construct that is often damaging" thing lmao
He gives me dad who physically and emotionally abuses his children to "prepare them for the real world" vibes
100 percent
I agree as a person who has a father like that
he is so my dad
@The Smoking Salmon
the word projection has lost all meaning due to people like you 😩
“And in this episode of ‘Unexpected Triggering Comments’-“
I thought he said “you guys just ASSAULTED him by the way” and I was like wtf
😭😭 it’s hard to feel bad for you when you genuinely scammed yourself on purpose paying for this shit
I remember getting into motivational speaking and self help. I lost interest in it, because of course, it doesn’t do any real good. But coming back and seeing people properly critique it for what it is is nice to see.
I really like how you bring your comedy around by bringing jokes you made previously into the new ones. I know that probably isn’t a thing you created or anything like that, but the jokes you make that incorporate that format I notice the most.
It feels like he’s talking to himself desperately trying to convince himself he’s the alpha
That's what they're all doing. lol
Alpha/beta/sigma shit is just astrology for men. Except unlike astrology fans, they base their entire sense of self-worth on it and cling to it desperately.
That's pretty much what they are, yeah
That’s exactly what alphas do 💀
@Frank Dolecki anyone who pays to listen to these people should try therapy
Just thought I could recommend another amazing PLclipr/motivational speaker for positivity’s sake: Molly Burke. She’s professionally a motivational speaker but does a lot of educational content about blindness on her channel.
9:08 Me, who wears platform boots and makes fun of my friends who are my actual height:🤚👀
i regularly go to see a motivational speaker. she's amazing and helps me in so many ways! we do one on one sessions every two weeks and talk about what's on my mind and she gives me advice and tells me stories.
I was in that rabbit hole of watching his company's pick up videos, and was actually at that same seminar, at the end they sell spots to the "In depth" boot camp. Basically it's 3hrs of him shaming you for being socially lazy and the saying if you don't come you're wasting your life. They profit off creating a cult of personality more than anything else.
"Stop being uncomfortable with yourself" has "Just buy a house if you're homeless" energy
"You’re dead? Just be alive 😇✨"
@dot dot dot little too rough but its true, no one but you can make you comfortable with yourself, its just that people would rather other people do it for them
"Stop being uncomfortable with yourself" like thanks man I never thought of that, no wonder he's a "motivational speaker".
@Ace X yes, or atleast realise that it doesnt really matter
I think I’m fucking ugly.What and I supposed to do,not think I’m ugly?Like bruh…
I’ve never been to a seminar but in high school I read a few books wand watches Ted Talks and nah it helps a bit but overall it made me feel worse about myself. Like there were all these standards that I couldn’t live up to
as someone who uses a wheelchair, i’d love for him to spend a day in one, and then see if he thinks people are ‘too nice’ to us 😂
my choir teacher has that because sometimes her voice gets tired and we call it her britney spears mic
Honestly, I do believe that the term “Motivation” can be useful in a way. But it being used for the wrong reasons, much like how this “Alpha” uses it to teach others is never truly a good thing and shouldn’t even be counted as Motivation.
Anyway, Great and funny video as always.
"don't be yourself. Don't be your beta self. Your life will be miserable" "the first step to being an alpha is being comfortable with yourself"
Yeah, it’s almost like what these alpha coaches really want is for people to warp themselves into what each individual coach thinks a stereotypical ‘man’ should be, not actually cultivate their social skills so they can showcase their true personality to people and actually get somewhere in their dating life or in making friends
@Paris 54 but like same tho
My brain does the stupidest stuff ever
@It isn’t Blu! I know not every furry likes wolves, and that not even most furries like wolves probably, this is just the shitposts my brain gets up to at ungodly hours of the morning.
@Paris 54 what-
I’m a furry and I don’t like wolves lol
@arcane on gawd
Weirdly 11:20 was very nostalgic for me. It reminded me of going underwater in a pool to escape the noise.
As a semi-wheelchair bound person I can confirm that people are still very very rude
imagine my dad is an "alpha male" and fucking watches these stuff, and I have to live with this person for another 2 years
I love Curtis and his comedy/channel SO much…I leave his channel on if I’m awake or sleeping so he gets the add cents! Hopefully that’s how it works or I’ve been watching to many adds.
Kurtis:,“They’ll say the craziest shit, and then just keep talking”
Also Kurtis, 9 minutes later: “why motivate, when you can motivenine?” *begins to do a brand deal*
10:11 and 18:55 :))
I actually took so long to figure out the stupid joke that he was already halfway into the brand deal when I finally laughed
Movtiveno
motivenein
Lol
i'm not even kidding, you giving me the life lesson at the end actually hit me in the heart- thanks dude
Motivational speakers are only really good for schools and such. I remember this one speaker really shook me at my core as a little middle schooler with severe self esteem issues, the little motivation they provided made me cry.
But for thousands of dollars? For grown adults? Yikes.
Kurtis’s acting is getting too good- I actually felt the teacher bit in my soul
I'm so glad I heard this guy's advice. I used to be uncomfortable with myself. Then I heard this guy say, "be comfortable with yourself!"
Audience: [Polite applause]
Insecure “Alpha” Male: You guys just insulted him, by the way.
Audience:
*I’m sorry, did that basic gesture of support trigger your inferiority complex so hard I could almost see the manifestation of your hurt masculine pride as it was projected onto the guy next to you?*
@SuraajTheGreat There's nothing anybody can do to determine their "manhood." How you act and talk does not determine how much of a man you are. Gender isn't liquid in a level
@King Pistachion racist lol
@King Pistachion the original person was wrong but it still doesn’t give you an excuse to be racist lol
@Hecking Bamboozled That's the gist of it
@Andrew Marling why do you keep making these strawman comments? Literally no one here said anything close to this.
i just know this man gets NO action and has convinced himself it's because he's too good for everyone
Just got reminded of an open mic my college hosted and this one kid was a "motivational speaker" and did a ten minute set of......motivational speaking. And I remember absolutely zero of what he said so I guess he wasn't very good.
I'm tempted to go to one of this guys motivational speeches so I could stand up and just say "you're wrong, you're so wrong and weird and wtf are you even saying?"
Because like, what is he gonna do? I'm standing up and confronting him like an alpha would so unless he wants to admit hes wrong, hes just gonna have to shut up
14:10 omg my maths teacher literally said that to me once in front of the entire class because I got an answer wrong 😢 I started skipping lessons and went from being a grade A student to failing the entire subject because of him.
I love the way he was like "if I was in a wheelchair, I wouldn't be afraid of the wheelchair" like... yeah dude, I don't think actual wheelchair users are scared of their wheelchairs either..
I certainly am not, but people are definitely weird about it. Still, what an odd thing for an able-bodied person to say
I was actually going to need a wheelchair, but when they wheeled it into the hospital room it was so scary that I my legs fixed themselves and I ran away screaming.
@PinkcatninjaDUDE LMFOAOSOAOAOAO😭😭
also how is he gonna roast people's speech skills when he stuttered through that whole sentence
Like I get his point. People do look down on you or think you can't handle yourself when you have disabilities but the way he phrased it as fear and everything made no goddamn sense lmao
I feel like that would be a lot like that one kid who's afraid of screaming
The teacher skit actually had me like curling into myself with anxiety as a person who sucks at math.
when he said "id be scared of the people being too nice to me if i was in a wheelchair" i first thought he was gonna go on a rant about infantilization (which IS an actual issue) until i quickly realized hes just a weirdo
Kurtis saying "thats just a theory, a game theory!" is the most amazing thing ever
I laughed wayy too hard at the motivational speaker joke 🤣
As someone who works in three middle schools, I can tell you that even seventh graders dress MUCH better than that guy. Lol
A former pro wrestler came to my high school to give a motivational speech. It was actually pretty good (The speaker is ex-pro wrestler Mark Mero)
As someone in a wheelchair, I wish people were "too nice" instead of cruel honestly LMAO
Actually, I went to a motivational speaker thing with my friends once cause we were out of it when we bought the tickets online and it was cheap and we thought “why not go”. The speaker ended up choosing me for his speech. At the end I hadn’t gained anything, but thought “maybe I’ll learn something from this in the future”. It’s a year later and I realized he just brought me up there, called me stupid and then sent me home.
Me as a person in a wheelchair: yes! my disability/wheelchair isn’t the issue, the lack of accessibility, living in a world not built for us, and large amount of ableism that still exists nah not it- people are TOO nice to meee ♿️😂
Glad this comment blew up
@Limes and Lemons What?
@I A alright dude that was an immaculate reply. You word things really well and make amazing points!
@Paris 54 ???
@I Don’t Know I mean, I have my misanthropic days, but I still have a hope that one day humanity will get better. It seems we take two steps forward, and a step back, on our good days, and a step forward and two steps back the rest of the time.
"Just stop being uncomfortable with yourself, problem solved."
Oh thanks dude that was so helpful I wonder why I never thought of that. I guess this is why he's a motivational speaker. 🤔
Kurtis’ speech at the 18 min mark was more motivational than anything the supposedly motivational speakers said in the entire video.
I feel sorry for everyone who suffered through those shows
I know the “don’t be motivated” speech was a joke but honestly it rings true in some ways. People gatekeep themselves behind their motivation when a lot of the time we just have to discipline ourselves to work through the lack thereof. It’s obviously not the way you want to work all the time, but sometimes the strength of character comes through in the dedication despite no motivation to keep pushing.
"alpha male" sounds like boys who are emotionally stunted and neglected but instead of doing the work to identify their trauma/triggers just grew up into hurt men. the real boss move is to introspectively look within yourself and notice the shortcomings you have and deal with them and lean on others when you need help. A friend will always be there.
@Pepper Chan I live in a shitty country.. it's hard bro
@r. Tysm. Just found out today that even my best friend is horrible at comforting me and all he said was "just get over it"
1000%! I tell people this all the damn time. Be an adult and quit blaming society and everyone else for your personal trauma that you refuse to handle. A lot of people run around acting like angry toddlers because they just don't want to grow up. It's sad.
@r. Yeah, on my journey to sobriety from self-harm, I've noticed a lot of people (and have found myself doing it too) becoming clean for others. When you fight with that person, lose that person, or becoming temporarily separated from them, how can you get better? You're like a dog on a leash, you only go as far as the person you're depending on will take you. Free communities online can be helpful, and The Trevor Hotline (for lgbt+ members 25 and under), transgender help hotline, and any other hotline (I use the texting hotlines, much easier imo) can help you. Some are for suicide, but some, like The Trevor Hotline for example, will just offer you counseling, suicidal or not. Depending on others not only hurts yourself, but them. You have to be willing to help yourself instead of expecting the people around you to lift you up and kiss it better.
He seems like the type of teacher to say most people dont pass this class and be proud of it.
Everytime someone uses the terms "alpha" and "beta" I immediately stop taking them seriously.
I’ve been called alpha because of my demeanor and how I behave like an adult. It never coming out the mouth of a reasonable adult it’s usually men that are uncomfortable with them selves and “nice guys”
I work with 2 guys who use wheelchairs at work and the crazy thing is customers are not nice to them and actually say terrible things all the time like "why cant you just stand up?" Can't fix stupid I guess.
This guy does NOT strike me as someone who is comfortable with himself
My mans got adhd on god
@Piers THANK YOU like that was my immediate thought. he seems like he is very insecure about his sexuality and is just trying to seem overly manly and stereotypically straight,, and then projecting onto his audience who are probably going through the same thing
@Lydia Mulfinger LMAO
@Prid oh my god, you are literally acting like what people *joke* that leftists are like
@Prid i think its p clear that's not whats going on with this guy
And even if it is, no one who makes a living by bullying others is secure in themselves
His own insecurity and the way he attempts to mask it is so clear and obvious, it's comical and sad, like a Zach Galifianakis character. He even sounds like him.
I’m a beta male, and I’m doing just fine……wonder what other “inspirational” advice this guys got