The 'Soft Boy' Epidemic

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Kurtis is neither a soft boy, nor a hard boy, he is a
*M e d i u m R a r e B o y*

Kurtis: hard boy
Drew: only boy
Danny: *squishy boy*

Me who keeps telling people that I like soft boys, thinking that it means genuinely nice, caring and wholesome boys : 👁️👄👁️

Kurtis having “beef” with Noah centineo gets me every time.

I can’t believe it took me this long to 1: learn that I can get two greetings per video on this channel (excellent deal) and 2: learn that I was a softboy when I was 15 😩

Kurtis: “they’re attractive white boys who look like they never sleep”
Also Kurtis: is an attractive white boy who looks like he never sleeps

when he’s describing soft boys at the beginning it sounds like he’s describing a bisexual

I felt genuine sadness for the "I'm artsy :(" guy

I’ve been listening to these European dudes they’re like super underground, the Beatles dude they’re great

"Every season is cuffing season for the soft boys"
don't forget the bi's

The soft boy and the “I’m not like other girls” girl are made for each other

I feel called out, man. I'm an artist. I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I like to talk about my emotions. I wear vans and doc martins and I cuff my jeans. But that's because I'm *_bisexual_* okay? I'd never try to manipulate anyone by pretending to care about their emotions or using flowery language to impress them. If I'm into you it's because I genuinely like you and want to know how you're doing.

Ted mosby , the original soft boy
"My parents live in ohio , I live in the moment "

*"they wear doc martens and cuff their pants"*
so... softboys are just manipulative bisexuals with extra steps

I think (I hope) the “my parents live in hoxton, I live in the moment” is a joke bc there’s a line from how I met your mother where Ted and Marshall are in college and pretending to be underground and Ted says “my parents live in Ohio, I live in the moment”

"attractive white dudes with cheekbones and jawlines and look like they haven't slept in forever.."
Kurtis honey...

Kurtis: they have disheveled hair, they wear vans or doc martens, they cuff their jeans...
all bisexuals: 👁👄👁

i met a lot of soft boys in uni, especially as a creative writing major with an emphasis on poetry. soft boys LOVE joining in classes thinking they'll impress the girls with their shitty off the cuff poetry, heres a hint: no one was impressed. and critiquing the work of a soft boy is hell and it never ends

i love how Kurtis’ description of a soft boy is just the same as describing a stereotypical bisexual

For years I heard the second greeting, knowing it wasn’t for me. I cried myself to sleep every night. Then I subscribbled. I had not one, but two greetings every video. My life was finally fulfilled.

"They look like they play the guitar but probably don't"
so simple, yet so true

Sounds like the description of a "nice guy." Maybe slightly different because they basically just behave "nice," whatever that means in the moment, to get the result they want, which is sex. Note to men, women hate "nice guys." Not to be confused with "good guys."

since there was the one that said "you look like a sociopathic mess and i love it", i kinda wanna rant.
i hate that people are glorifying mental illnesses, like some people saying "I'm such a phychoooo" like ok, even if thats a personality type and not an illness, its not just criminals that kill people and love blood. It's a personality disorder and its not cute.
its good to talk about any mental illness, lets say depression, its okay to talk about it, but not glorify it and talk about it like "i love people who have it, thats so cool", its something you need to try to solve and get rid of

Damn my definition of soft boy was completely wrong. I thought it meant like. A boy that’s more openly feminine. Like idk I imagine a boy wearing pastel pink clothing and a flower crown
That’s a soft boy to me.

as a lesbian its sad that i have the same style as a soft boy...

"911 what's your emergency?"
"I got shot in my house"
"Where do you live?"
"The moment."

Yea i had a roommate who was a soft boy. 2 days into moving across the country, i had to call the police on him because he went crazy. He spent quite a while in the psych ward and was later diagnosed with schizophrenia and PTSD

"Things I don't care about global warming, Palestine"
That didn't age well

That’s why I like you, Danny, and Drew. Instead of taking the easier route with your looks, you sided with comedy with only enhances your attractiveness. Y’all know what the people want.

the thought that i have anything in common with these guys just makes me hate myself even more than i already do

soft boys are always looking for a manic pixie dream girl and when they realize she has actual mental health issues and isn't just quirky, they leave

Imagine telling someone they look like they lack a conscience (most often due to severe trauma or emotional neglect in early life, or something very extreme at another point in life) and that you love it, thinking the person is going to be flattered and not like insulted and weirded out.

"Damn girl, you look like you have Mesothelioma and may be entitled to financial compensation."

I don’t think Kurtis realises he’s literally what every teenage girl falls for

Kurtis: “the extra greeting is a kurtis guarantee
Also kurtis: *forgets greeting*

"I'm not like most girls" epidemic is dying out. Now the "I'm not like most guys" epidemic is rising.

The “I live in the moment” quote is from the show “ how I met your mother “ originally its “ my parents live in Ohio but I live in the moment” I think he didn’t mean to come over as a soft boy😭😭😭

The guy version of “I’m not like other girls”

Kurt sees red flags in men and I appreciate it

"Just be a genuine human being..." I just don't think our current society is set up to teach people what that even means.

"They look like they would play the guitar but they probably can't"
That's it, that's the actual definition

Arctic monkeys is no longer one of my favourites, the indie soft boys have ruined it for me.

3:33 the odd thing is that even though kurtis said birkenstocks, i still had a picture of doc martin type combat boots in my brain, before he corrected himself

2 years on this just reminded me how exactly this video got me started watching Kurtis because back then I had a crush on a totally soft boy and turned out he was gay obviously but anyway i still love Kurtis's videos and I'm a faithful Kurtistown citizen xo xo xo xo

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
Kurtis, your doing everything right, and we’re proud of you.

”did your dog afterbirth on your head” is such a strange way to roast someone's hair but it was certainly effective

Whenever i see videos like these, i feel like just hugging my boyfriend and saying '... Thank you for being an awesome dude. Seriously... You're a fucking gem from the void space that is tinder'

Just wanted to let you know my brother saw me watching this video and said "this dude looks like he's being doing meth". Love that for you kurtis

I am 24 yo boy.
Yes, i'm more sensitive than most of other boys, i want to share emotional connection with my girlfriend, i am not completely asexual, but i realy dont want to be with girl for sex only, and dont want sex until we both feel ok..am i nice/soft guy ? Even if i had sex with my girlfriend, i will never treat her differently, and sex is realy not my goal..as i said, becoz i'm indian, it is may be becoz of our tradition..but also i am modern enough.
So am i soft guy ?
And becoz sex is not my TOP priority there may be some people who would question my masculinity. so sometimes, i am confused what girls want..
If i have to be myself, i will be with girl, just to share friendship, emotional connection, struggle,happiness..and i'll wait until we both get ready for sex.

As someone over 30…I just wanna say it’s fine, teenage girls. I too threw myself at the soft boys. They’ve been around forever. Back in my day, they were mixed with the bad boys. So imagine like um…Ville Valo.

I don’t think Kurtis realized he’s a skinny white boy w brown curly hair, nice cheekbones, and a good jawline.

Me: How many times are you gonna rewatch this video?
Also me: yes

The "they're boots my guy" KILLED ME

After seeing this video, I'm pretty sure the last guy I dated was a soft boy. At the time I thought he had a mental health problem.

I've love all your haircuts, even the mullet. You looked retro and I loved it.

If you look like you’re one cigarette away from dying, you’re a verified soft boy

These men are the definition of "CRINGE" in flesh and bones.

Wow softboy and fboy both meant something COMPLETELY different back in my day...

I asked a boy if he went to the gym and he said, “I don’t work out my body. I work out my brain.”

The worst part for me is I wear cuffed jeans, collared shirts and sweaters and beanies (not docs) but all of that stuff. I am not a soft boy either I completely disagree with manipulation like that, it horrible. WHY DO I HAVE THE SAME CLOTHES THO CRI

Soft boys: I use big words to make myself sound more photosynthesis

"Attractive white dudes with cheekbones and jawlines that look like the haven't slept ever."
Literally just Kurtis describing himself... Lol

at first this video made me feel like im a softboy, then i read the comments and realised apparently im also bisexual

Daaaaaamn, after watching this video, only just realised I bloody dated a soft boy. Everything he did now makes so much sense!
THANKS for explaining why we broke up Kurtis! 😂😂

In addition to the Softbois who look at the "Twitter Whiteboy of the Month" and just try to emulate them are guys who would prefer to be Fuccbois but fall short of one or more of your typical Fuccboi attributes. Ie, to use the Riverdale example, you have the personality and heart of a Reggie, but you more closely resemble Jughead in appearance and level of confidence.
It's like if every r/incel poster worked up the courage to start shooting their shots, but they still didn't respect women.

“They look like they could play the guitar but probably can’t” the accuracy is astounding

If someone called me a "crazy sociopath and I love it" I won't take that as a compliment.

After you read that first screenshot I had the sudden urge to throw the empty mug I was holding at someone, it does not matter if they wrote that message or not, and watch it shatter against their head.

When you were describing the phenomenon I was thinking, oh no... this was me during undergrad. Then you started showing examples and I thought, "Oh thank fuck, I was never this bad." Like, pretty bad. Just not that bad.

When you try so hard to make regular sentences sound smart/complex/deep , that it looses all original meaning and turns to cringe

i just realized how old this video is, almost 2 years old. it's yesteryesteryear

A perfect example of a "soft boy" can be Troy Becker who is actually Paul Zimmer. Watch that video by Danny Gonzalez.

I've never encountered a soft boy but in my youth I dated a pedophile and an emo boy. Then recently a country boy and I've realized dating is just not for me

One time I was talking to this textbook softboy and I jokingly quoted Jugheads I’m a weirdo speech and he unironically said same.

" You look like you have Mesothelioma, and I love that. "
WHEN I TELL YOU I DIED HEARING THAT 🤡☠️

kurtis pretending he’s not a soft boy for 15 minutes

I always thought soft boys were good people...
Like, I thought soft boys were the cute, innocent boys that wear flower crowns and play minecraft with you, I think that’s a better meaning, we should change that to be what soft boy means.

As someone with severe epilepsy I would be hella impressed if someone could paint my auras.

these are the kind of people who probably make/share ✨ aesthetic depression moodboards✨

I like how your videos are like 99% sarcasm and then in the last minute you drop some facts. But honestly, I laugh so hard watching your content.

I love to hear him explaining about how a "soft" boy looks like when he actually looks like a soft boy.

Soft boy experience:
One time I was out dancing and this guy was next to me, so we kinda started groovin together. In the transition to the next song, he said he had learned everything he needed to know about me through that moment and he felt like he could marry me that same day. I just kinda giggled nervously and walked over to my boyfriend who had returned from the restroom. He thought he was being so genuine but I thought he was being a creep and very dismissive of the fact that I am my own person. But Im sure it would have worked on some people.

What if you unknowingly go for the heart and emotions then realize you can't commit? Oh god am I a soft boy?! I thought I was just emotionally damaged

8:14 he's clearly British so on behalf of my nation I duly apologise to any woman who has come in con tact with him

The thing is I would most likely fall for this 😭Cause I want this to be genuine so bad

Attractive, white, cheekbones, jaw lines, haven't slept... Kurtis I love you but I think you're describing yourself

I am watching this video over 2 years after it was posted and I'd just like to point out that the whole "I live in the moment" thing is a joke from How I Met Your Mother to intentionally poke fun at how pretentious Ted was in college. It's exactly the same joke but with Ohio instead of Hoxton.

So, for how many times I found myself going, “...okay but what’s wrong with that?” or “that’s pretty reasonable.” I’m apparently a soft boy.
A lot of these just felt like misguided people who use pseudo-intellectualism to try to project an image they consider ‘cool’ or ‘valuable’, but they’re not hurting anyone.
They’re just their own type of pedantic, self-depreciating cringe.
To use a term Kurtis loves: that’s my vibe.

Im actually a recovering soft boy and this video changed my life when I first saw it

OMG I had one of these guys talk to me in the street while having an anxiety attack. It was the weirdest experience.
I said I have trouble talking to people and he said "You could talk _with_ me"
I wish I could remember better but something about living in the moment and "well, if you want to talk to me, you'll find a way" before getting up and walking away ...
I can't believe these people exist

Rose: Draw me like one of your French girls.
Jack: hOw aBoUt I dRaW uR aURA.

As an HSP these types of people really makes things difficult for us

I was getting kinda worried because it sounded like he was describing me (aside from manipulation), but then he mentioned the pants and I knew I was in the clear. Dodged a bullet there.

"I'm a hard boy"
-Kurtis Conner

"I'm not a soft boy, okay? I'm a hard boy." - sounds exactly like something a soft boy would say😎

Petition to make Kurtis the new softboi of twitter

I'm kinda just like, an edgy eboy who doesn't use tiktok, doesn't have earrings, bought a two pack of rings that were like, way too big, is not pale but has natural uncontrollable floofy hair.

so im transmasc and I pass quite well as a cis man and for the LONGEST time I'd act just like this because in my head I thought ''if I got a straight woman to have a thing for me then wow I would feel really euphoric" so I made my whole personality like the romance side character in a teen Disney movie and it was a huge burden on me, eventually I cracked and became emo so idk which is worse honestly

"Attractive dudes with cheekbones and jawline that look like they haven't slept in forever......" you're just describing yourself dude.