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The 'Soft Boy' Epidemic

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  • Opublikowany 3 sty 2019
  • I'M ARTSY :(
    Today, we look at the phenomenon known as "soft boys". The dudes who act like they're artsy and emotional for their own personal gain. With a little help from the @beam_me_up_softboi Instagram account, we take a closer look at these fellas, and try to stop...The Softboy Epidemic.
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Komentarze • 24 812

  • Kurtis Conner
    Kurtis Conner  3 lat temu +50498

    UR ARTSY HUH????????
    let me know if you want me to make a part 2!! thanks for watching!

    • ♥ andy ♥
      ♥ andy ♥ Miesiąc temu +1

      bestie its yesteryesteryesteryear

    • GG
      GG 5 miesięcy temu

      im fartsy

    • Eisla Kerby
      Eisla Kerby 6 miesięcy temu

      I'd like a part two

    • -sigh
      -sigh 6 miesięcy temu

      :( im artsy

  • Yee Haw Shaw
    Yee Haw Shaw 2 lat temu +18821

    Kurtis is neither a soft boy, nor a hard boy, he is a
    *M e d i u m R a r e B o y*

  • Individual Cheerio
    Individual Cheerio 10 miesięcy temu +2569

    Kurtis: hard boy
    Drew: only boy
    Danny: *squishy boy*

  • Adrenaline activate
    Adrenaline activate 11 miesięcy temu +3748

    Me who keeps telling people that I like soft boys, thinking that it means genuinely nice, caring and wholesome boys : 👁️👄👁️

  • Aliah Duiker
    Aliah Duiker Rok temu +1324

    Kurtis having “beef” with Noah centineo gets me every time.

  • Basically Homeless
    Basically Homeless 11 miesięcy temu +1506

    I can’t believe it took me this long to 1: learn that I can get two greetings per video on this channel (excellent deal) and 2: learn that I was a softboy when I was 15 😩

    • Rain
      Rain 6 miesięcy temu +2

      @ScoopMeisterGeneral wait… what…? I subscribed…

    • ScoopMeisterGeneral
      ScoopMeisterGeneral 7 miesięcy temu

      Don't believe the lies. You only get one greeting on Kurtis' videos.

    • Brandon Otero
      Brandon Otero 9 miesięcy temu


    • Connor D
      Connor D 9 miesięcy temu

      MR HAMLASS?!

    • Shirinatron
      Shirinatron 10 miesięcy temu

      @marlee 💋 😢 it's gone

  • IshmaelDoesStuff
    IshmaelDoesStuff Rok temu +22340

    Kurtis: “they’re attractive white boys who look like they never sleep”
    Also Kurtis: is an attractive white boy who looks like he never sleeps

    • Imagery
      Imagery 18 dni temu

      U think curtis attractive 😳😳😳

    • Shay 💗
      Shay 💗 24 dni temu

      I was hoping someone said this in the comments that’s exactly what I thought. “Uh Kurtis, that’s you” 😂 also yes I know I’m very late-

    • emology
      emology Miesiąc temu

      friendly fire

    • AnnaThe Cat
      AnnaThe Cat 5 miesięcy temu

      Double-edged compliment

  • Natalie K
    Natalie K 9 miesięcy temu +431

    when he’s describing soft boys at the beginning it sounds like he’s describing a bisexual

    • Glamazon Jayne
      Glamazon Jayne 22 dni temu +3

      doc martins kinda crossee the line. personal attack

    • Ben Dover
      Ben Dover 2 miesięcy temu

      @Bob Rob straight people dont do that

    • Drifter
      Drifter 4 miesięcy temu +7

      @Sabir Lucianno unfortunately for a lot of people their sexuality becomes their personality.

    • Loki'd ;)
      Loki'd ;) 8 miesięcy temu +23

      Yea like I felt called out

  • the fun
    the fun 10 miesięcy temu +174

    I felt genuine sadness for the "I'm artsy :(" guy

  • Jackson Wegner
    Jackson Wegner 10 miesięcy temu +359

    I’ve been listening to these European dudes they’re like super underground, the Beatles dude they’re great

    • Kevin Scott
      Kevin Scott 7 miesięcy temu +14

      You too?!!!
      I have all his albums!

  • Xx_SomeSceneCath0lic_xX

    "Every season is cuffing season for the soft boys"
    don't forget the bi's

  • Amanda
    Amanda Rok temu +27548

    The soft boy and the “I’m not like other girls” girl are made for each other

    • Henna Rawr
      Henna Rawr Miesiąc temu

      @yuyu thank you c:

    • nansii Pii
      nansii Pii 4 miesięcy temu

      Theres nothing wrong with being I'm not like the other girls cause not all the girls are the same the thing is you shouldnt be a pick me

    • nansii Pii
      nansii Pii 4 miesięcy temu

      There's nothing wrong with being I'm not like the other girls cause not all the girls are the same the thing is you shouldnt be a pick me

    • Lucy Cameron
      Lucy Cameron 5 miesięcy temu


    • Yeleana Ravelo
      Yeleana Ravelo 7 miesięcy temu

      @Jaza nk hey, not trying to be rude or anything but could you remind me why “youre not like other girls” is offensive?

  • Eastia
    Eastia 3 miesięcy temu +87

    I feel called out, man. I'm an artist. I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I like to talk about my emotions. I wear vans and doc martins and I cuff my jeans. But that's because I'm *_bisexual_* okay? I'd never try to manipulate anyone by pretending to care about their emotions or using flowery language to impress them. If I'm into you it's because I genuinely like you and want to know how you're doing.

  • khaoula hachim
    khaoula hachim Rok temu +449

    Ted mosby , the original soft boy
    "My parents live in ohio , I live in the moment "

    • person person
      person person 5 miesięcy temu +2

      @Wonpil’s Piano i think you mean Don’t do Dr. X like that-at-at-at-at

    • Slade
      Slade 5 miesięcy temu +7

      He’s also an architect like 500 days of summer and HIMYM’s full of indie music

    • Wonpil’s Piano
      Wonpil’s Piano 9 miesięcy temu +8

      Don’t do Dr. X like that😂

    • Rachel Bell
      Rachel Bell 10 miesięcy temu +12

      i was looking for the himym comment

    • khaoula hachim
      khaoula hachim 11 miesięcy temu +6

      @Peach☁️ HAHAHA YEAH LMAO

  • Margaret Fulop
    Margaret Fulop 11 miesięcy temu +139

    *"they wear doc martens and cuff their pants"*
    so... softboys are just manipulative bisexuals with extra steps

  • Jenna Fox
    Jenna Fox 10 miesięcy temu +127

    I think (I hope) the “my parents live in hoxton, I live in the moment” is a joke bc there’s a line from how I met your mother where Ted and Marshall are in college and pretending to be underground and Ted says “my parents live in Ohio, I live in the moment”

    • Knives Cherry
      Knives Cherry 15 dni temu

      I was looking for this

    • Bri Lee
      Bri Lee Miesiąc temu +1

      Ted was such a soft boi minus long hair

    • Daddy Jungkook
      Daddy Jungkook 7 miesięcy temu +9

      The worst thing is you can’t tell sarcasm anymore. This could just as easily be 100% serious.

  • a. d.
    a. d. Rok temu +12087

    "attractive white dudes with cheekbones and jawlines and look like they haven't slept in forever.."
    Kurtis honey...

    • h0neyzaki
      h0neyzaki 9 miesięcy temu

      kurtis.. hun.,

    • Ana Matos
      Ana Matos 9 miesięcy temu

      @Kelley Smith me too!!!

    • Ana Matos
      Ana Matos 9 miesięcy temu

      Yes hahahahahah

    • ain
      ain 9 miesięcy temu +1

      Kurtis just described himself

    • Amethyst Kang
      Amethyst Kang 10 miesięcy temu


  • Caroline Seamons
    Caroline Seamons 10 miesięcy temu +54

    Kurtis: they have disheveled hair, they wear vans or doc martens, they cuff their jeans...
    all bisexuals: 👁👄👁

  • slugpatrol
    slugpatrol 6 miesięcy temu +17

    i met a lot of soft boys in uni, especially as a creative writing major with an emphasis on poetry. soft boys LOVE joining in classes thinking they'll impress the girls with their shitty off the cuff poetry, heres a hint: no one was impressed. and critiquing the work of a soft boy is hell and it never ends

  • Saturn Commits Arson
    Saturn Commits Arson 2 miesięcy temu +3

    i love how Kurtis’ description of a soft boy is just the same as describing a stereotypical bisexual

  • Captain Pointless
    Captain Pointless 10 miesięcy temu +62

    For years I heard the second greeting, knowing it wasn’t for me. I cried myself to sleep every night. Then I subscribbled. I had not one, but two greetings every video. My life was finally fulfilled.

  • leofreaking
    leofreaking 2 lat temu +4274

    "They look like they play the guitar but probably don't"
    so simple, yet so true

  • NolanEP
    NolanEP 10 miesięcy temu +40

    Sounds like the description of a "nice guy." Maybe slightly different because they basically just behave "nice," whatever that means in the moment, to get the result they want, which is sex. Note to men, women hate "nice guys." Not to be confused with "good guys."

    • elenoid
      elenoid 10 miesięcy temu +7

      Yep. "Nice guy" = guy who is temporarily nice to whoever they're sexually interested in until they get (or don't get, for that matter) what they want from that person
      "Good guy" = good, genuine person overall, meaning the dude is decent outside of his dating life as well.

  • Thine
    Thine 3 miesięcy temu +4

    since there was the one that said "you look like a sociopathic mess and i love it", i kinda wanna rant.
    i hate that people are glorifying mental illnesses, like some people saying "I'm such a phychoooo" like ok, even if thats a personality type and not an illness, its not just criminals that kill people and love blood. It's a personality disorder and its not cute.
    its good to talk about any mental illness, lets say depression, its okay to talk about it, but not glorify it and talk about it like "i love people who have it, thats so cool", its something you need to try to solve and get rid of

    RULERZREACHF4N 5 miesięcy temu +9

    Damn my definition of soft boy was completely wrong. I thought it meant like. A boy that’s more openly feminine. Like idk I imagine a boy wearing pastel pink clothing and a flower crown
    That’s a soft boy to me.

  • noah
    noah 11 miesięcy temu +40

    as a lesbian its sad that i have the same style as a soft boy...

  • Prof. Lysander
    Prof. Lysander Rok temu +14503

    "911 what's your emergency?"
    "I got shot in my house"
    "Where do you live?"
    "The moment."

  • LXIX Turner
    LXIX Turner 9 miesięcy temu +8

    Yea i had a roommate who was a soft boy. 2 days into moving across the country, i had to call the police on him because he went crazy. He spent quite a while in the psych ward and was later diagnosed with schizophrenia and PTSD

  • butterss
    butterss 10 miesięcy temu +49

    "Things I don't care about global warming, Palestine"
    That didn't age well

  • Thomas Winters
    Thomas Winters 11 miesięcy temu +18

    That’s why I like you, Danny, and Drew. Instead of taking the easier route with your looks, you sided with comedy with only enhances your attractiveness. Y’all know what the people want.

  • Christian
    Christian 3 miesięcy temu +2

    the thought that i have anything in common with these guys just makes me hate myself even more than i already do

  • drey wants sleep
    drey wants sleep Rok temu +7024

    soft boys are always looking for a manic pixie dream girl and when they realize she has actual mental health issues and isn't just quirky, they leave

    • Micky Waickman
      Micky Waickman 5 godzin temu

      as a recovered manic pixie dream girl (who was actually just closeted and unaware of their mental health issues), i concur 🤠

    • Sophia Ako
      Sophia Ako 3 miesięcy temu +1

      this is sooooo accurate holy shit

    • Gloria Okonye
      Gloria Okonye 4 miesięcy temu +9

      @I Like Pancakes Maybe... You should try dating a stone or any other inanimate object.

    • James Mayou
      James Mayou 4 miesięcy temu

      Ya that’s me

    • AnnaThe Cat
      AnnaThe Cat 5 miesięcy temu +1

      Sounds like me, just without the girly pixie bit

  • Anika Becker
    Anika Becker 9 miesięcy temu +6

    Imagine telling someone they look like they lack a conscience (most often due to severe trauma or emotional neglect in early life, or something very extreme at another point in life) and that you love it, thinking the person is going to be flattered and not like insulted and weirded out.

  • waltrz
    waltrz Rok temu +13

    "Damn girl, you look like you have Mesothelioma and may be entitled to financial compensation."

  • ayesha del of canada
    ayesha del of canada 3 miesięcy temu +2

    I don’t think Kurtis realises he’s literally what every teenage girl falls for

  • Aliyah James
    Aliyah James 6 miesięcy temu +4

    Kurtis: “the extra greeting is a kurtis guarantee
    Also kurtis: *forgets greeting*

  • Nyanna Ross
    Nyanna Ross 3 lat temu +5398

    "I'm not like most girls" epidemic is dying out. Now the "I'm not like most guys" epidemic is rising.

    • Alex .G
      Alex .G 2 miesięcy temu

      @Camila Bobea “daddy dom”?

    • Alex .G
      Alex .G 2 miesięcy temu

      @person person hey new guy!

    • person person
      person person 2 miesięcy temu

      but let's be real, both those sides falter in comparison to the misanthropists.
      who went 'f**k it' and decided they weren't like most humans.

    • n
      n Rok temu +1

      @EXQUISITE NACHOS i bet you're not like other guys either

    • Anna
      Anna 2 lat temu +5

      @Walk Murfree then don’t read my boring little story

  • Gaby L
    Gaby L Miesiąc temu +3

    The “I live in the moment” quote is from the show “ how I met your mother “ originally its “ my parents live in Ohio but I live in the moment” I think he didn’t mean to come over as a soft boy😭😭😭

  • The Bored Enthusiast
    The Bored Enthusiast 11 miesięcy temu +34

    The guy version of “I’m not like other girls”

  • Shivangi Singh
    Shivangi Singh 8 miesięcy temu +17

    Kurt sees red flags in men and I appreciate it

  • Chris J
    Chris J 11 miesięcy temu +5

    "Just be a genuine human being..." I just don't think our current society is set up to teach people what that even means.

  • Charlene Muchunu
    Charlene Muchunu 3 lat temu +4031

    "They look like they would play the guitar but they probably can't"
    That's it, that's the actual definition

    • Dominik Weber
      Dominik Weber 5 miesięcy temu

      So if i do play the guitar i can't be one?

    • good o'l me plant
      good o'l me plant 3 lat temu +6

      They look like they draw sketches but has never picked up a pencil in there life

    • Mutantcy1992
      Mutantcy1992 3 lat temu +12

      Probably more like they *own* a guitar and can't really play it

    • niknokpalabok
      niknokpalabok 3 lat temu +20

      @Natasha Arriaga don't you mean "cant help falling in love with you"

    • GorillionDollarExtreme
      GorillionDollarExtreme 3 lat temu +8

      @Natasha Arriaga nah, they can't do anything either

  • salma nofal
    salma nofal 11 miesięcy temu +19

    Arctic monkeys is no longer one of my favourites, the indie soft boys have ruined it for me.

    • mimi naomi
      mimi naomi 9 miesięcy temu +3

      maybe you could listen to the last shadow puppets, the singer sounds so similar to the arctic monkeys singer, but they are super underground!

  • Tianna Cowan
    Tianna Cowan 3 miesięcy temu +2

    3:33 the odd thing is that even though kurtis said birkenstocks, i still had a picture of doc martin type combat boots in my brain, before he corrected himself

  • kotersey
    kotersey 5 miesięcy temu

    2 years on this just reminded me how exactly this video got me started watching Kurtis because back then I had a crush on a totally soft boy and turned out he was gay obviously but anyway i still love Kurtis's videos and I'm a faithful Kurtistown citizen xo xo xo xo

    SASHA 7 miesięcy temu +1

    Roses are red,
    Violets are blue,
    Kurtis, your doing everything right, and we’re proud of you.

  • Gigi
    Gigi Rok temu +5295

    ”did your dog afterbirth on your head” is such a strange way to roast someone's hair but it was certainly effective

  • Naomi Mowatt
    Naomi Mowatt 11 miesięcy temu +7

    Whenever i see videos like these, i feel like just hugging my boyfriend and saying '... Thank you for being an awesome dude. Seriously... You're a fucking gem from the void space that is tinder'

  • jinx h
    jinx h 5 miesięcy temu

    Just wanted to let you know my brother saw me watching this video and said "this dude looks like he's being doing meth". Love that for you kurtis

  • Aditya Barhanpurkar
    Aditya Barhanpurkar 7 miesięcy temu +4

    I am 24 yo boy.
    Yes, i'm more sensitive than most of other boys, i want to share emotional connection with my girlfriend, i am not completely asexual, but i realy dont want to be with girl for sex only, and dont want sex until we both feel ok..am i nice/soft guy ? Even if i had sex with my girlfriend, i will never treat her differently, and sex is realy not my goal..as i said, becoz i'm indian, it is may be becoz of our tradition..but also i am modern enough.
    So am i soft guy ?
    And becoz sex is not my TOP priority there may be some people who would question my masculinity. so sometimes, i am confused what girls want..
    If i have to be myself, i will be with girl, just to share friendship, emotional connection, struggle,happiness..and i'll wait until we both get ready for sex.

  • glitterbitesback
    glitterbitesback 6 miesięcy temu

    As someone over 30…I just wanna say it’s fine, teenage girls. I too threw myself at the soft boys. They’ve been around forever. Back in my day, they were mixed with the bad boys. So imagine like um…Ville Valo.

  • Kara Eva
    Kara Eva Rok temu +10431

    I don’t think Kurtis realized he’s a skinny white boy w brown curly hair, nice cheekbones, and a good jawline.

    • April S.R
      April S.R Miesiąc temu +2

      He's kinda hot. Lucky girlfriend lol

    • Delena4ever #TVD
      Delena4ever #TVD 2 miesięcy temu +2

      he literally did tho... he said that in the video

    • English Donut School
      English Donut School 3 miesięcy temu +2

      With blue eyes 💙

    • Anna T
      Anna T 11 miesięcy temu +19

      I think you just complimented and insulted him at the same time

    • bella
      bella Rok temu +9

      @ninki minjaj uh same

  • Paulina Cabrera
    Paulina Cabrera 2 miesięcy temu +2

    Me: How many times are you gonna rewatch this video?
    Also me: yes

  • Noah
    Noah 9 miesięcy temu +11

    The "they're boots my guy" KILLED ME

  • Angela Holden
    Angela Holden 7 miesięcy temu +1

    After seeing this video, I'm pretty sure the last guy I dated was a soft boy. At the time I thought he had a mental health problem.

  • Desirée Cornect
    Desirée Cornect 4 dni temu

    I've love all your haircuts, even the mullet. You looked retro and I loved it.

  • Olivia J
    Olivia J 3 lat temu +2724

    If you look like you’re one cigarette away from dying, you’re a verified soft boy

    • person person
      person person 2 miesięcy temu +2

      if you're male and easy to mould, cut, compress, or fold, you're a soft boy.

    • Zombie Ferrikusu
      Zombie Ferrikusu 2 lat temu +2

      *asthmatics have entered the chat*

    • Ioly_Rach
      Ioly_Rach 2 lat temu


    • Ala’a Atari
      Ala’a Atari 2 lat temu +4

      I'm a female soft boy in that case.

  • you_re_a-mother-less child
    you_re_a-mother-less child 5 miesięcy temu +1

    These men are the definition of "CRINGE" in flesh and bones.

  • Rachel Baity
    Rachel Baity 10 miesięcy temu +1

    Wow softboy and fboy both meant something COMPLETELY different back in my day...

  • Kayla Mullins
    Kayla Mullins 5 dni temu

    I asked a boy if he went to the gym and he said, “I don’t work out my body. I work out my brain.”

  • Bellbie Goodridge
    Bellbie Goodridge 10 miesięcy temu +2

    The worst part for me is I wear cuffed jeans, collared shirts and sweaters and beanies (not docs) but all of that stuff. I am not a soft boy either I completely disagree with manipulation like that, it horrible. WHY DO I HAVE THE SAME CLOTHES THO CRI

  • Victoria Kathleen
    Victoria Kathleen 2 lat temu +18714

    Soft boys: I use big words to make myself sound more photosynthesis

    • Deez
      Deez 3 miesięcy temu

      This is one of the best things I've ever seen!🤣🤣🤣

    • Arte Speck
      Arte Speck 3 miesięcy temu

      @strawberrywigz1 who tf is Mitchondria

    • T o k a g e G y o
      T o k a g e G y o 3 miesięcy temu


    • yt ghost
      yt ghost 3 miesięcy temu

      People with Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia reading this reply section be like:

    • The Immortal Sun-kun
      The Immortal Sun-kun 3 miesięcy temu


  • Random SloMo
    Random SloMo 8 miesięcy temu +1

    "Attractive white dudes with cheekbones and jawlines that look like the haven't slept ever."
    Literally just Kurtis describing himself... Lol

  • Thomas Cannon
    Thomas Cannon 7 miesięcy temu +1

    at first this video made me feel like im a softboy, then i read the comments and realised apparently im also bisexual

  • Pascale Cohen
    Pascale Cohen 8 miesięcy temu +1

    Daaaaaamn, after watching this video, only just realised I bloody dated a soft boy. Everything he did now makes so much sense!
    THANKS for explaining why we broke up Kurtis! 😂😂

  • KingofSting19
    KingofSting19 6 miesięcy temu +2

    In addition to the Softbois who look at the "Twitter Whiteboy of the Month" and just try to emulate them are guys who would prefer to be Fuccbois but fall short of one or more of your typical Fuccboi attributes. Ie, to use the Riverdale example, you have the personality and heart of a Reggie, but you more closely resemble Jughead in appearance and level of confidence.
    It's like if every r/incel poster worked up the courage to start shooting their shots, but they still didn't respect women.

  • Stefan Gaitan
    Stefan Gaitan Rok temu +7138

    “They look like they could play the guitar but probably can’t” the accuracy is astounding

    • taRAtiH •
      taRAtiH • 6 miesięcy temu +1

      @absolutley nothing. what

    • absolutley nothing.
      absolutley nothing. 6 miesięcy temu

      Floofy what r your pronouns?

    • Sugarbabi
      Sugarbabi 8 miesięcy temu +1

      @Baka Haruhi oh they do youve just had the luxury to have never encounter them

    • Rumun Dutu
      Rumun Dutu 9 miesięcy temu


  • pichu !
    pichu ! 11 miesięcy temu

    If someone called me a "crazy sociopath and I love it" I won't take that as a compliment.

  • Wren MacDonald
    Wren MacDonald 8 miesięcy temu

    After you read that first screenshot I had the sudden urge to throw the empty mug I was holding at someone, it does not matter if they wrote that message or not, and watch it shatter against their head.

  • Sam Findlay
    Sam Findlay 6 miesięcy temu

    When you were describing the phenomenon I was thinking, oh no... this was me during undergrad. Then you started showing examples and I thought, "Oh thank fuck, I was never this bad." Like, pretty bad. Just not that bad.

  • Ettrix
    Ettrix 7 miesięcy temu

    When you try so hard to make regular sentences sound smart/complex/deep , that it looses all original meaning and turns to cringe

  • JT
    JT Rok temu +12729

    i just realized how old this video is, almost 2 years old. it's yesteryesteryear

    • FredBear&Friends !
      FredBear&Friends ! 18 dni temu


    • kian
      kian 19 dni temu +1

      yeseryesteryesteryear now

    • Mica Frimpter
      Mica Frimpter Miesiąc temu


    • dac
      dac Miesiąc temu


    • Ranex
      Ranex Miesiąc temu

      Now it’s 3 years old lol

  • btzzzzzgurlㅋㅋㅋ
    btzzzzzgurlㅋㅋㅋ 8 miesięcy temu +4

    A perfect example of a "soft boy" can be Troy Becker who is actually Paul Zimmer. Watch that video by Danny Gonzalez.

  • Nex
    Nex 3 miesięcy temu

    I've never encountered a soft boy but in my youth I dated a pedophile and an emo boy. Then recently a country boy and I've realized dating is just not for me

  • Molly1604
    Molly1604 4 miesięcy temu +1

    One time I was talking to this textbook softboy and I jokingly quoted Jugheads I’m a weirdo speech and he unironically said same.

  • Snack Smack
    Snack Smack 9 miesięcy temu

    " You look like you have Mesothelioma, and I love that. "

  • Ella N.
    Ella N. 3 lat temu +13978

    kurtis pretending he’s not a soft boy for 15 minutes

  • egg917
    egg917 10 miesięcy temu +1

    I always thought soft boys were good people...
    Like, I thought soft boys were the cute, innocent boys that wear flower crowns and play minecraft with you, I think that’s a better meaning, we should change that to be what soft boy means.

  • Pat F
    Pat F 9 miesięcy temu

    As someone with severe epilepsy I would be hella impressed if someone could paint my auras.

  • AAA Color Coded Lyrics
    AAA Color Coded Lyrics 5 miesięcy temu +2

    these are the kind of people who probably make/share ✨ aesthetic depression moodboards✨

  • Lino Rosa Voigtländer
    Lino Rosa Voigtländer Miesiąc temu +1

    I like how your videos are like 99% sarcasm and then in the last minute you drop some facts. But honestly, I laugh so hard watching your content.

  • Jess !
    Jess ! 3 lat temu +3755

    I love to hear him explaining about how a "soft" boy looks like when he actually looks like a soft boy.

    • Amira
      Amira Rok temu +4

      He also had like, all the yellow flowers stuff in twitter lol. But he seems to be the kind type of softboy and not the asshole (sometimes also misogynystic) type of softboy lmao.

    • C4PR1C10US
      C4PR1C10US Rok temu +10

      Except I'm attracted to him and not to soft boys I mean what

    • You are Very noice
      You are Very noice 2 lat temu +4


    • ew why
      ew why 3 lat temu +34

      yeah he mentioned that lmaooo “i know what it looks like, but I AM NOT A SOFT BOY”

  • Dancing Octopus
    Dancing Octopus Miesiąc temu

    Soft boy experience:
    One time I was out dancing and this guy was next to me, so we kinda started groovin together. In the transition to the next song, he said he had learned everything he needed to know about me through that moment and he felt like he could marry me that same day. I just kinda giggled nervously and walked over to my boyfriend who had returned from the restroom. He thought he was being so genuine but I thought he was being a creep and very dismissive of the fact that I am my own person. But Im sure it would have worked on some people.

  • Cullen
    Cullen 7 miesięcy temu

    What if you unknowingly go for the heart and emotions then realize you can't commit? Oh god am I a soft boy?! I thought I was just emotionally damaged

  • hassan Khan
    hassan Khan 7 miesięcy temu

    8:14 he's clearly British so on behalf of my nation I duly apologise to any woman who has come in con tact with him

  • Charlie Gehrig
    Charlie Gehrig 6 miesięcy temu +1

    The thing is I would most likely fall for this 😭Cause I want this to be genuine so bad

  • Emily Madsen
    Emily Madsen 3 lat temu +9160

    Attractive, white, cheekbones, jaw lines, haven't slept... Kurtis I love you but I think you're describing yourself

    • Dyliboi
      Dyliboi Rok temu

      exactly what i was thinking lmao

    • Aylin
      Aylin Rok temu


    • Someone Who Exists
      Someone Who Exists Rok temu +1

      Sarah Barabe Well, in about the 90’s I think, there was the trend of models that looked like meth heads. They were really, really skinny (even more so than the models of today), they were extremely pale, and they also looked like they’d never slept a wink in their life.

    • Mythical Lands 🐾
      Mythical Lands 🐾 Rok temu

      Except the atractive part

    • Ximena Parsons
      Ximena Parsons Rok temu +3

      This is basically the return of Edward Cullen

  • john_jones
    john_jones 6 miesięcy temu

    I am watching this video over 2 years after it was posted and I'd just like to point out that the whole "I live in the moment" thing is a joke from How I Met Your Mother to intentionally poke fun at how pretentious Ted was in college. It's exactly the same joke but with Ohio instead of Hoxton.

  • Tommy Harris
    Tommy Harris 11 miesięcy temu +1

    So, for how many times I found myself going, “...okay but what’s wrong with that?” or “that’s pretty reasonable.” I’m apparently a soft boy.
    A lot of these just felt like misguided people who use pseudo-intellectualism to try to project an image they consider ‘cool’ or ‘valuable’, but they’re not hurting anyone.
    They’re just their own type of pedantic, self-depreciating cringe.
    To use a term Kurtis loves: that’s my vibe.

  • Doinked
    Doinked Rok temu +1

    Im actually a recovering soft boy and this video changed my life when I first saw it

  • Aradia Danuels
    Aradia Danuels 6 miesięcy temu

    OMG I had one of these guys talk to me in the street while having an anxiety attack. It was the weirdest experience.
    I said I have trouble talking to people and he said "You could talk _with_ me"
    I wish I could remember better but something about living in the moment and "well, if you want to talk to me, you'll find a way" before getting up and walking away ...
    I can't believe these people exist

  • Yeowoo
    Yeowoo 3 lat temu +1188

    Rose: Draw me like one of your French girls.
    Jack: hOw aBoUt I dRaW uR aURA.

  • Masch
    Masch 5 dni temu

    As an HSP these types of people really makes things difficult for us

  • Nerdwhals - Nerdwhal519
    Nerdwhals - Nerdwhal519 11 miesięcy temu +1

    I was getting kinda worried because it sounded like he was describing me (aside from manipulation), but then he mentioned the pants and I knew I was in the clear. Dodged a bullet there.

  • Dianna White
    Dianna White 2 miesięcy temu +2

    "I'm a hard boy"
    -Kurtis Conner

  • Sally Beth
    Sally Beth 8 miesięcy temu

    "I'm not a soft boy, okay? I'm a hard boy." - sounds exactly like something a soft boy would say😎

  • Carly K
    Carly K 3 lat temu +1070

    Petition to make Kurtis the new softboi of twitter

  • Antonio Patru
    Antonio Patru 11 miesięcy temu +4

    I'm kinda just like, an edgy eboy who doesn't use tiktok, doesn't have earrings, bought a two pack of rings that were like, way too big, is not pale but has natural uncontrollable floofy hair.

  • Yongusdongus
    Yongusdongus 5 miesięcy temu +1

    so im transmasc and I pass quite well as a cis man and for the LONGEST time I'd act just like this because in my head I thought ''if I got a straight woman to have a thing for me then wow I would feel really euphoric" so I made my whole personality like the romance side character in a teen Disney movie and it was a huge burden on me, eventually I cracked and became emo so idk which is worse honestly

  • Kari Max
    Kari Max Miesiąc temu

    "Attractive dudes with cheekbones and jawline that look like they haven't slept in forever......" you're just describing yourself dude.